Sure, labels are something we stick on others, but since most of the time life keeps us busy enough not to have the time to look around too much, labels are more like something we put on ourselves.
I love how children label us.
Rennina will say things like:
– You know the father of Pekka, he is the one always making us laugh (he is on a wheelchair).
– Yes, you have meet Marja before, she is the one always wearing braids and playing with me house (she is pakistani).
– Do you remember that fluffy dog that licked all my face and played with me? (it had only 3 legs).
When labelling, evident differences are not important to children, important traits are important.
Have ever thought how you label yourself?
I randomly introduce myself as a mother, a photographer, an entrepreneur, an Italian, a creative, a 40 middle age woman, a wine enthusiast, a runner (only in summer time) and many other things depending on my mood.
But what of these things are really important? How the children I’ve met till now would label me?
Please, meet Vuokko.
I have labelled her as a friendly and kind soul, a sensitive and maternal figure. A giving person.
Rennina labelled her as the nice mother of E and E, who is able to handle snakes (yes she is indeed) and gives her candies and chocolate.
In many occasion she had to label herself as the carrier of the genetic mutation BRCA2 which increase dramatically the risk of breast and ovarian cancer.
You can read her story here
, on the pages of the very gifted Marja Kihlströmin, where you will follow her hard path to the discovery that you can decide to stop the fear, live the present and not be afraid from the future any longer.
The sentence that made me stop my reading was this: “Voiko nainen luopua rinnoista, munasarjoista, munajohtimista ja kohdusta? Mitä sen jälkeen jää?”
So how do you label yourself when the most intimate physical part defining your gender are taken away for you? What are you when you are not complete any longer? What is left when the same parts that bring your children to life are going to be taken away from you so they will not kill you?
The things defining us are not the evident ones, but the important ones.
She is Vuokko and to be ourself is the best label we can offer to others.
For sure the path to this discovery can be very hard to walk.